Monday, March 22, 2010

Where am I?

My life is surrounded by old people. I married a man 12 years my senior, so most of our friends are older than me. My calling in church puts me in a position of getting to know the elderly in our ward. Some relatives are aging before my eyes. I'm forced to reevaluate my own life and where I am in reference to my life goals.

My aunt is 99, and we have friends in their 80's and 90's. A couple of days ago, a friend died at the age of 100. When I'm 80, 90, or 99, I hope I have half the wisdom that I see in these people. I feel so far behind. There is so much knowledge bottled up inside them -- I wish I could shake them like a soda bottle and explode some of that wisdom out onto me. I find myself picking their brains for any glimmer I can glean.

Someone said recently the worst mistake women make is to compare themselves to other women. To some extent I agree with that, but in other ways the comparison may be our call to action. The good we see in others can be ours if we put our minds to the task. Being wise isn't easy; it's God's challenge. We need to be careful, however, that we don't become depressed about our shortcomings. We should always strive for something higher, but not forget how far we've come.


  1. Good point, Laurie. I also grew up with older people, parents born 1900 and a grandmother born 1875. And being in a small Branch, most of the members were over 60. There was so much I could have learned, but wasn't interested until most were gone. I also believe the worst mistake women can make is to judge themselves by others' preceived "holiness" level. I'd rather see the good and positive things and blend those into my own life.
    A silly thought I used to have, was that any person I presumed to be smarter than me, was, naturally older than me...I really insulted a few younger women by guessing their age to more than mine! I learned better.
    Keep striving, and never forget our progress.

  2. "I presumed to be smarter than me, was, naturally older than me..."

    I had the darnest time when I suddenly began working for attorneys younger than me. Sometimes they have looked at me for advice, and I have to remind them that I've never been to college, and never passed the Bar exam. I think they see my gray hair as wisdom instead of stressed out mama!